Valentine’s Day is stressful. Too stressful. You’re supposed to find the perfect gift. It needs to feel heartfelt and personal on a day when everyone else is trying to do the same. The holiday shouldn’t be about presents, though. It’s about spending time with the person you love. Here are four spots to escape for some quiet time instead.

Greenville: Go to New York. Stay in the Catskills. Sleep in an old motor lodge that’s been revived as a chic city escape. Hang out in a new kitchen where homemade breakfasts are served, snacks are sold, and wine deliveries from a nearby bottle shop arrive.

Greenwich: Go to Connecticut. Stay along the Long Island Sound. Sleep in an elegant hotel. Enjoy glasses of Champagne, a deep soaking tub, a couples’ massage, and wine and cheese.

Woodinville: Go to Washington. Stay along the Sammamish River. Sleep in a warm, toasty retreat. Enjoy a glass of Cabernet Sauvignon by a roaring fireplace, a soaking tub for two, a “happier hour” with tapas and live music, and dinner in a rustic restaurant.

Albuquerque: Go to New Mexico. Stay in an area with a surprisingly long history of producing wine. Visit an award-winning winery. Opt for a sparkling wine tasting.